A man needs love, just like you do. Yes, men do. While a lot of women are quick to quote and demand from their men, the biblical injunction in Ephesians 5:25, “Husband’s love your wives even as Christ loved the church and also gave himself up for it…”, they often do not realise or acknowledge that a man needs love too.
Research has shown that the very acts wives refuse to do, dismissing as either a waste of time, and/or a favour are the very reasons a man is drawn to another woman!
God is yet to create a woman who is incapable of loving a man.
Every woman is able to give love. For the married ones, we just get comfortable and/or choose (for various reasons) not to love our husbands.
Some of these reasons include but are not limited to:
Anger – “He has upset me too much for me to consider any act of love”.
Unforgiveness – “I may forgive but will not forget”.
Tradition – “The women in my family do not show love; so I don’t know how to”.
Distrust – “He will take me for a fool”, “He will betray me”, “Men are not to be trusted”.
Hatred – Lots of unsavoury men stories have ensured that you think “Men are dogs”.
Retaliation – “He doesn’t care for me anyway; so why should I care?”
Ignorance – “I am too old for that”.
The list is inexhaustive and, sadly, all of the above and more are reasons strange women are still able to gain footholds in many homes. What a wife considers a waste of time, the mistress will willingly do many times over. No mistress ever arrested a married man by being hostile or vindictive. All they study are the very things the wife is not doing.
Every individual has an emotional love tank which needs to be filled at all times. It is a daily thing. Very much so like our daily walk with God. If your husband’s love tank is empty or half full, you run a risk of someone else filling it. No man is ever too old to receive love. Same reason a man of 70 can fall in love and marry a woman in her 30s.
Ways to love your man that no one will be able to entice him away
Tell him you love him and why.
Let him know that he is important to you and you appreciate him.
Find a way to understand his thought process, even if you disagree with him.
Give him some time alone with his friend –let him breathe!
Show that you trust and respect him.
Thank him for all the things he has done. Howbeit, little – some men don’t even do anything.
Do not allow family or friends to either disrespect or put him down. Be ready to defend him.
Wear something incredible sexy – just for him.
Make yourself available for sex – constant excuses are a turn-off.
Initiate sex occasionally – Don’t give him the impression that he is a maniac and all he thinks about is sex!
Say something nice after sex. It will boost his ego. Silence after sex means either of two things: “terrible” or “no big deal”.
Create a conducive atmosphere for laughter and romance – remove the frown from your face!
Give him a massage – his neck, back and shoulders.
Occasionally run a bath laced with peppermint oil – very relaxing.
Meet him by the car when he gets home and have a few minutes together – this surely sets the tone for how the rest of the evening will be.
Wait up to serve his food and eat with him, if/when he comes in late. Leaving his food in the microwave passes the message “you can do what you like, I don’t care”. However, on the contrary, you do care and hope for a turn-around. Waiting up for him is one way to touch his heart. Hopefully, he has a heart and won’t make it habitual.
Send a text or BB message telling him the many things you will do to him when he gets home.
Schedule romantic evenings for just the two of you – just be sure he is not too tired.
Try not to quarrel too often and do not hesitate to apologise, even when you think you are in the right.
• Refrain from “I told you so”.
• Do not nag. A man likes to be told of his wrong once!
• Be interested in his sport or any other favourite pastime.
• Do not criticise him in front of others.
• Be willing to forgive and believe in him many times over.
• Always make him believe that he is in charge.
The list is endless. You must understand your husband enough to know what will keep him interested in you and you alone. To keep a man interested, you must be proactive and innovative. Always re-inventing yourself. You must give love to receive love. Remember, whatsoever you sow, you will reap.
