Dear Agatha,
I am a young lady that finds pleasure in the company of other women than men. I discover I actually get excited when a woman is very close to me.
Recently, I found myself in a room with a friend of mine, and one thing led to another. We began to make love. I really enjoyed it while it lasted, but I felt bad afterwards because the act went against everything I was brought up with.
I am not proud of myself. Is there a way out of it? Can I be normal again? Can I have the same feelings for members of the opposite sex as I have for my fellow women?
Please Agatha, I urgently need your help before I embarrass myself any further than I have done.
Already, the lady I was intimate with is putting too much pressure on me. Please help me.
Lily,
Dear Lily,
You are the only one that can help yourself overcome this urge. It is a matter of determination. Once you are resolute, there is always a way out.
For now, avoid the lady you were intimate with. You have to put a lot of distance between the two of you, at least until you are strong enough to resist her overtures.
What you have to do is to stay very close to God who is the only one that can help you fight your abnormal urges.
When next the urges come strongly, avoid being among women, especially the ones you have feelings for. Keep your distance from them and concentrate on fighting all the strange urges inside of you.
It has also become necessary for you to have a responsible man in your life whose presence would help you fight these urges. You don’t have to sleep with him; his presence is enough to help expose you to the natural way God designed it between a man and woman.
To get him to understand where you are coming from, tell him the truth about yourself. This is to make him grow the kind of understanding and compassion you need to overcome this phase of your life.
Only a man who understands your challenge can really offer you the kind of patience and friendship you need at this point in time.
Although it isn’t going to be easy, as long as you are determined to disengage from the habit, you will win at the end of the day.
Good luck.
