Heartbreak is more prevalent amongst the female due to their emotional nature. But be it male or female, everyone do go through heartbreak at some point in their life. There are, however, ways to deal with heartbreak and nudge yourself in the right direction.
Step one
Accept your emotions. When you are faced with a situation that has caused you heartbreak (for example, the breakup of a relationship), it is normal to get emotional, grieve, become sad, or even withdrawn sometimes.
You must not try to ignore this feeling, or try to suppress them, because if you do, it might result in worst situation such as depression. You are going to need to give yourself time to grieve and to deal with all the emotions that are going to plague you in those first weeks.
Step two
Distance yourself from your ex. It is very difficult to get over heartbreak, when there is a constant reminder of the person who has caused your heartbreak.
The best thing to do is to cut off any means of getting in contact with the person or anything that will remind you of that person. If it takes blocking your ex on all your social media platform, then go ahead.
This will prevent you from been tempted to spend hours pouring over their Facebook page and over-analysing every single thing they post in an attempt to figure out if they regret not being with you and miss you, etc.
You also need to discipline yourself not to text or call him/her, because if you’re constantly trying to stay in communication with your ex, you’re not going to be able to move on, which will make your feelings of heartbreak and unhappiness that much harder and that much harder to bear.
Step three
Speak out. You should talk about how you feel to someone close to you, to unburden. If you are not comfortable talking about it just yet, you can try writing about how you’re feeling.
Every day, write down how you’re feeling about the heartbreak. Gradually, you will see that you are getting better.
Don’t listen to heartbreak or break-up songs; it will make you feel worse. It is better to listen to angry and sad songs to help get those feelings you are having out, but don’t stay in that condition for so long.
Step four
Make plans. While you will need time to wallow in your unhappiness, you also need to remind yourself why life is worth living.
At first it will be really hard to make yourself go out and do anything, but trying to do at least one thing a week can be a good place to start.
Start small. Don’t try to make yourself go out to a wedding right after the heartbreak. Instead, start by having lunch with your best friend, or going to hang out at the cinema.
Do things that you enjoy, especially things that you weren’t able to do while being part of a couple with your ex. This will remind you why you are better off without the relationship, and remind you how to do things on your own.
Step five
Take care of yourself. One of the most important things to do while you are recovering from heartbreak is to take care of yourself.
A lot of times you will be feeling super unmotivated and it can be hard to simple get out of bed, but going that extra mile for yourself can help you from falling into a huge pit of despair.
Reward yourself for things that take extra effort like cleaning your apartment, not being withdrawn at work, going shopping, or hanging out with friends. Exercising can be a good way to take care of yourself and boost your mood.
Exercise releases endorphins, which can help make you feel happier and you will feel better about yourself in general.
And always remember that, there is a reason for absolutely everything that happens. Take the break-up as an advantage to you, if the relationship was meant to be, it could have lasted longer, and turned to a happy ever after kind.
Be grateful that you are out of it before it becomes too late.
