A Nigerian man based in the U.S., Francis Van-Lare, has advised his fellow Nigerians abroad to learn from his mistake of two failed back-to-back marriages by not importing their prospective partners from Nigeria.
Francis, who has been married and divorced twice, including to a relationship expert, Amara Nwosu, says most times these partners were more in love with the destination and not the man taking or woman taking them there.
This is what he wrote on his Facebook page:
“After two failed back to back marriages importing wives from Nigeria, I told myself that I cannot be that bad of a person as for sure those that I have dated know I take good care of them and I support their dreams.
“This is for those abroad men or women looking to import a wife or a husband. The thing is 80% of the men or women you want to import do not really know how they feel about you until you have helped them to relocate abroad. In the meantime, your location is what they are in love with not you so don’t fool yourself.
“The juicier your location the more ‘Love and good poi ‘ you get. If you are in a western nation especially the USA and Canada the more you are ‘loved’ compared to say, South Africa. Get this straight moving out of Nigeria is the main focus not any stupid love for you
“I asked myself how can someone who was having naughty video calls while in Nigeria suddenly arrive and you want to have naughty poi on your staircase, in the kitchen or get a good BJ you were getting from her when you visited her in Nigeria or you want to talk dirty during poi and the F word is now offensive but same F word was not offensive while you were in Nigeria
“In fact those dirty words on video chat and showing me orishi rishi parts of your body on video chat gave me the impression that when you arrive in the USA poi will be gangman style.No holds barred except yansh poi
“I was asking someone recently that I advised not to marry a babe in Nigeria but bring her over as a fiancé because there is a reason the USA created the visa. It allows you to bring a fiancé, male or female to the USA for 90 days and if it does not work out you send the person packing back to where they came from and if it works then you must marry within 90 days.An advice I should have used myself instead of having two divorces on my record that I could have avoided
“This guy was thanking me for my advice and praising himself for listening to me and not her insisting on getting married as ‘divorced’ would have been on his record now. After narrating his experience with the babe when she arrived in the USA I was amazed. Total contrast to when he visited her in Nigeria two or three times while she was waiting for her visa
“As for me my eyes are open, I have a business that takes me to Nigeria multiple times a year and a comfortable residence, show me all your love there. Relocation to America may happen or not happen but let me enjoy you there in Nigeria.”
