he man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord – Proverbs 18:22 (NLT).
It is important to get this fact straight – ‘a man finds a wife, NOT a woman finds a husband’. Therefore, it is important for a single lady who is in her marriageable age to position and equip herself to be found by the right man.
Hence, the men are the hunters. It is important for you as a man to choose your target carefully.
After you must have been so convinced that you are ready and well equipped as a man to start a relationship leading to marriage, you have to be ready to do some of the followings to start with:
• Be ready to get over any form of past rejection, overcome your shyness and clear your mind.
• Think about what you will say to her – remember the recency effect (first impression matters a lot).
• Let her know you are interested in her.
• Prepare your conversation – indulge in a conversation that interests her. Women like intellectual conversations; talking will break the ice and make her become more comfortable with you.
The best way to start a conversation is with a genuine compliment.
• Be bold, but not arrogant – interrupt her and get her attention when you see her.
• Create a conversational connection with her and show her that you are able to understand her; make her see you as a romantic partner. Lots of women love this.
• Be yourself around her – don’t try to be who you are not.
• Show that you are well groomed and watch out for the basic hygiene. No woman likes a man with dirty clothes, body odour or with a smelling breath.
• When conversing, make eye contact with her. Eyes are capable of showing your deepest emotions, and this makes her feel you are truly flowing with her.
But watch out to not stare at her.
• Have the right attitude – fearless and not arrogant, convince her that you are confident in your own skin.
• Have self confidence, a sense of humour, and self control.
• Show her that you are a gentleman – not many men from our day are. Treat her like a princess, respect her for what she is and compliment her.
• Do not touch her in an offensive way – touch her slightly on her hands and even shoulders.
• Tease her – a woman will be attracted to a man who teases and challenges her. Teasing erases frustration which distracts her attraction.
• Be creative – you may buy her a nice gift and be genuine when you give it to her.
Lastly, women are attracted to specific, confident traits in men and your behaviour demonstrates them all.
So start watching out for what women actually respond to, not what they say they want.
