My man dumped me after the 15th abortion, lady opens up

She said her partner had fixed a wedding date but seven days after the 15th abortion, the groom to be called off the white wedding.

A businesswoman and author that featured in an interview with Chude Jideonwo, Lara Kadayisi, has recounted how her man called off a church wedding after impregnating her 15 times for which she aborted all.

According to the lady who now says she is a healing guru, she met the man in a church and were planning for a white wedding.

In many churches, the criteria for a white wedding requires sexual abstinence until marriage.

She said her partner had fixed a wedding date but seven days after the 15th abortion, the groom to be called off the wedding.

“Fifteen abortions. My mum called me when she heard it years ago and said it’s not possible. She insisted I was just saying it so people will come. I told her it was true. If you read my book, you’d understand why I did it,” she said.

“It was just because I was naive and had the goal to get married, at which time every other thing didn’t matter. So even if I got pregnant three times for a guy and keeps saying he doesn’t want to use protection, I’d still do it.

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“There’s a chapter in the book where I said I married to prove daddy wrong. I launched ‘operation get married’. That’s how the abortions happened. After 15 abortions, I still conceived and had my son.

“It’s only now that I ask myself how I did that. For each abortion, I had said it would be the last one. And because I had a child before, I didn’t think of the consequences. I didn’t want to have another child outside wedlock,” she said in the interview.

The woman said she initially refused to abort her 15th baby but her partner insisted he couldn’t have a pregnant bride.

She said she also couldn’t have another child out of wedlock.

“They would just kill me. So there’s the thing that led me to it and there’s the shame. I was going to marry the guy. We met in church. We were together and fixed a wedding date. I had done 14. Remorse started setting in,” she said.

“I thought, what if I don’t have another child? I was in the choir and he was preparing to be a pastor. He said he’s never going to have a pregnant bride because of what people will say. He insisted I abort.

“I said, what if I don’t have another child? He said to leave that for him to worry about since I already have one. Anything to get me to take the baby out. The woman brought the foetus out and showed me. That killed me.

“The father didn’t come. I was depressed. Seven days after, the guy said he was done with the relationship. I didn’t hold him responsible but blamed the devil. I felt the devil was controlling him to rob me of my marital destiny.

“I lived in denial and went to his house daily for three months. I fasted for 40 days to get the man back. I tried to kill myself. I was a mess.”

According to the woman, it took the help of another pastor to dissolve the relationship after which she slipped into depression.

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