Love language
There are five basic love languages. You must study and understand the love language of your spouse or lover. You must also be able to speak to them in their language; that is the only way you can be free from marital slavery. There are individual differences; hence each of us has a peculiar love language we love and expect our spouse or lover to speak.
1. Word of affirmation
2. Physical touch
3. Gift
4. Helping hand
5. Quality time
Word of affirmation: This is a language loved by women, most especially. They love to be noticed. They love compliment on their food, dress, hair style and general appearance. People love words like: “your food tastes nice”, “you are looking sweet”, “you are lovely”, “thank you my dear”, “waooh! it looks nice on you”, “that’s my baby/guy”, “you are the best wife/husband in the world”, “I am very proud of you” and so on. As long as you say this to you man/woman, they feel loved. The absence of these words makes them feel unwanted. Take note.
Physical touch: At this point, I need to emphasise that this language is more spoken among couples who are married. Singles who are engaged need to learn this, to keep their marriage intact in the future. Touching your spouse speaks greater volume than mere talking. Every woman needs eight different touches every day; they need to be pecked, hugged, kissed and cuddled, with other deeper touches every day. Communication flows when you touch each other, and you tend to be closer more and more.
Gift: They have tremendous positive effects on relationships. Some appreciate gifts so much. It is not the size of the gift or the price tag that matters. Someone said “what matters is not the gift of the lover, but the love of the giver”. Buying a gift always for someone you love simply means you have them in mind. This will definitely blossom your love. For instance, a T-shirt, an earring, peanuts, shoes, cars, etc. are ideal.
Helping hand: Some people love to be helped with the cleaning of the house, washing and drying of clothes, bathing the baby, washing the car, changing the diapers etc. Every woman/man that speaks this love language feels offended and used each time they are left alone with house chores.
Quality time: Finally, time spent together should not be in quantity, but in quality. Pay undivided attention to your spouse when you are on a date, going out together, or discussing. In the midst of the crowd, let him/her feel your presence. Refuse to be distracted, especially when you are together because distraction by the television, newspaper, watching football, looking at or speaking to another man/woman may cause friction.
The neglect of this five love languages in any relationship has led to so many problems among couples. Let us embrace change by learning to speak love languages that will aid our marital bliss and bring peace to our homes.
Prayer points
1. O Lord, deliver my marriage from the bondage of slavery.
2. Father, restore my marital joy in the name of Jesus.
3. O Lord, let every voice of stranger(s) in my marriage be silenced.
4. May every unseen hand in my marriage be withered by fire in Jesus name.
5. Let, every power monitoring my marriage for evil receive instant judgment.
6. Let evil reporters assigned against my marriage fight themselves.
7. May satanic strategies that interpret my act be wasted.
8. My marriage must not be slaughter on the altar of bitterness, in Jesus name.
9. Let evil bird(s) flying against my happiness be wasted in Jesus name.